The film Defending Our Lives, is a documentary about abused women, who have fought back against their assailants, killed them, and have then gone on to serve prison sentences for these murders. The film is tough to watch. The second scene begins with a member of the organization “Battered Women Fighting Back!” as she reads the names of twenty women and how they were killed by acts of domestic violence. With each reading of a name is a minimal description of how the woman was killed. “Strangled to death.” “Shot.” “Stabbed over 40 times.” Twenty times over we hear the alarming statistics. Yes, these women has become statistics.
Recently, I saw a segment on TMZ regarding the performer Chris Brown and his controversial new tattoo. The media has swarmed around the subject because the new tattoo looks remarkably like the battered face of Brown’s ex-girlfriend, performer Rihanna, after Brown had beaten her back in 2009. The abusive relationship between Rihanna and Brown epitomizes that of Ike and Tina Turner, whose domestic abuse was chronicled in the film What’s Love Got to Do With It?
Why the Rihanna/Chris Brown relationship is so compelling is because it is an act of private domestic abuse that has been played out in the public by two public figures. Much like Ike and Tina. And like Ike and Tina, Brown and Rihanna’s domestic abuse has been somewhat glamorized and somewhat accepted in society because it has been internalized and normalized. And Brown has yet to go to jail – unless it be for his fighting with Drake at an NYC club.
When the attack initially happened, women were extremely critical not only of Chris Brown, but of Rihanna and whether or not she would choose to get back together with him. Some have even noted that the abuse boosted Brown’s image to that of “Bad Boy” status as a hip-hop music artist. Furthermore, questions arise as to whether or not Brown’s violent behavior is somewhat assumed and therefore normalized in the media.
Take for instance Brown appearance on Good Morning America. When reporter Robin Roberts interviewed Brown, asking questions surrounding his infamous incident with Rihanna, Brown diligently tried to steer the conversation back to his latest album (the reason for him being on the show in the first place). Apparently aggravated by this confrontation, Brown stormed “into his dressing room and screaming so loud, the people in hair and makeup became alarmed and called security. Brown was out of control, and one source present tells us he smashed a window in his dressing room, and the glass shattered and some shards fell onto 43rd and Broadway. ABC security tells TMZ … the window was shattered with a chair” (TMZ).
The kid has a temper. But does this bad-boy persona justify abuse, of any kind? Absolutely not, nor is it acceptable behavior for any private or public figure. So my question is, aside from the legal system that is charging Brown for these acts of violence, is there any other form of punishment inflicted upon Brown? It is more likely that he is using these acts of unacceptable violence to his advantage.
Domestic Violence is not normal. Rather it is an epidemic that needs to be treated as such and cannot be ignored.